Narcissistic Mortification

(from Wikpedia)

(Structurally…this is a fit)

Though the cause for basic narcissism

is unknown these are some possible causes:

An oversensitive temperament at birth 

Being praised for perceived exceptional looks or abilities by adults

Excessive admiration that is never balanced with realistic feedback

Excessive praise for good behaviors or excessive criticism for poor behaviors in childhood

Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents

Severe emotional abuse in childhood

Unpredictable or unreliable care giving from parents

Valued by parents as a means to regulate their own self-esteem

Some psychotherapists believe that the etiology(possible cause)  of the disorder is, in Freudian terms, the result of early childhood trauma which causes fixation in early, early childhood.

or

If a child does not receive sufficient recognition for their talents during about ages 3–7 they will never mature and continue to be in the narcissistic early development stage and want constantly to be seen for their specialness. 

pathologically narcissistic people are

controlling,

blaming,

self-absorbed,

intolerant of others’ views,

unaware of others' needs

and

of the effects of their behavior on others,

and

insistent that others see them

as they wish to be seen

(sounds lovely)

 

Although individuals with NPD

are often ambitious and capable,

the inability to tolerate setbacks,

disagreements or criticism,

along with lack of empathy,

make it difficult for such individuals to work cooperatively

(i.e. have a hard time sharing) 

or attaining  long-term professional achievements.

With narcissistic personality disorder, the individual's self-perceived fantastic grandiosity, often coupled with a hypo-manic mood (which i am close to) , is typically not commensurate with his or her real accomplishments.

A strange beautiful split from reality,

the truth has been undone and the

fantasy supersedes the spectacle

Psychiatrist Glen Gabbard suggested NPD could be broken down into two subtypes.

He saw the "oblivious" subtype as being

1.grandiose, arrogant, and thick-skinned 

2. hypervigilant subtype as being easily hurt, oversensitive, and ashamed.

In his view, the oblivious subtype presents for admiration, envy, and appreciation a powerful, grandiose self that is the antithesis of a weak internalized self,

which hides in shame,

while the hypervigilant subtype neutralizes devaluation

by seeing others as unjust abusers.

Dr. Jeffrey Young, who coined the term "Schema Therapy", a technique originally developed by psychiatrist Aaron T. Beck (1979), also links NPD and shame.

He sees the so-called Defectiveness Schema as a core schema of NPD, along with the Emotional Deprivation and Entitlement Schemas.

A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:

1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3. Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
4. Requires excessive admiration
5. Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
6. Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
7. Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
8. Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes

Symington

Jungians have explored how

'the narcissistic longings of mothers (or fathers) to amass reflected glory through their children'

can result in a situation where

'in place of autonomy, the adult...would come to obey an internal source that the psychoanalyst Neville Symington calls the "discordant source"'.

Symington contrasted

'two poles: one in which I am the source of my own action, where I have a creative capacity that comes from my own source of action,

and the other in which an inner figure opposed to myself is the source of action.

He termed the twin 'sources of action the "autonomous source" and the "discordant source"', and acknowledged that 'although the formulation is different, it is along the lines of what Winnicott talks about -

the true self and the false self.

 

The Gamble

a simple tonic

monkey monkey

double down  

 

Shame

I am not negated

“the right bet at the wrong time”

            blame god…parents

 

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Hey!   

It is helpful to think of “withdrawal”

as a condition in which the person concerned

(child or adult)

holds a repressed part of themselves

and nurses it at the expense of external relations.

 

August 9th 2011

To understand the world through the ego the super ego and the id is much more imaginative than trying to find parts of the brain that are responsible for various behavior and the developing various chemicals  which will counteract said experience.

That is reducing behavior to a material process.

To completely disregard the unconscious which again is quite different than magical thinking.

Are we all shaped by instinct and drive…human/family ties that bind.

Is society pathological and patriarchal?

It seems so if the environmentalists and socialists and honest reporters are to be believed…the origins of human violence…the death wish 

The structure of our thinking determines the reality of how we organize ourselves economically and politically…authoritarian leaders and   corporate power…when we speak of revolution the very structure that hold us together (white males) is exposed and the responses are full of anger and righteousness. We are diving into the depths of the laws that sustain us through these difficult times of being alive which have always been difficult.       

smoking an oral fixation

weed and alcohol 

a muscle relaxant

both a freedom from

the critical waging war.

absconded self 

pray harder!

love more!